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Feel Good about Yourself

Most of us want to feel good about ourselves!  When we feel good, we are happy and confident.  It also gives us the feeling that we are lovable, capable and unique.  However, there might be times when you don’t feel good about yourself as well.  Like when you did not accomplish something you wanted to do.  Or something did not go the way you wished / expected, and you feel you are a disappointment to yourself or someone else. Eg:-

  • You did not do as well as you wanted in your Semester Assessment (SA),
  • You did not come in 1st in your school’s Sport’s Day
  • Your best friend said something that hurt you

These negative feelings you have about yourself are part and parcel of growing up and can happen to anyone else.

However, it is important that you do not let these negative feelings discourage, and make you feel bad about yourself.

Imagine you are riding in a car, which is just a few years old, but it’s still in a very good condition. Halfway through the journey, one of the car tires went flat, and the car is unable to move. Would you then get rid of the car because it is now a piece of junk? Or would you realize that the car is still fine, and that it only has a flat tire?  Most people would realize the car is still in a good shape, but it has one flat tire that needs to be fixed.  In the same way, this is how we human beings are as well.  Take for example, you might perform poorly for a test, but that doesn’t mean you are not a smart person, or not good in your studies.  There may be many reasons for the poor results, like you did not have enough time to prepare for the test, or you did not understand a particular topic well.  Nevertheless, the important thing is you could always try harder and prepare well for the next test.

I FEEL GOOD ABOUT BEING ME!

A popular song goes like this, “Always look on the bright side of life”.  When you do fail at something, don’t get discouraged. Think about what you can learn from the experience, and how you can do better next time.  The only total failure is when you don’t learn anything from your failure.

Learn to praise yourself, especially when you have improved in doing something better, when compared to the past.  For example - “I did a lot better for my Mathematics exam this year than last year”, or “I can write better this semester than in the last semester”.

Stop negative self-talk.  Do you ever catch yourself saying, “I’m terrible in my studies.. So I’m not good at anything else”, or “I’m so stupid! Why did I do that!”.  These phrases not only bring us down, but it may take away any good feelings you have about yourself.

Try and think of all the things you like about yourself.  Then write them down and make a list.  When you are feeling down, take the list out and read it.  This might seem difficult for a start, but once you get going with your list, you’ll find it’s really quite easy.  Eg. I can draw well, I’m good at remembering things, I make friends easily, I am happy.