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HELP! I’M BEING CYBERBULLIED!!
Bullying happens when one or more people say or do things on purpose to hurt someone.
There is another form of bullying known as cyberbullying. Read on to find out more about this!
What is Cyberbullying?
Cyberbullying uses the internet, mobile phones, video game systems, or other technology to hurt or embarrass another person.
Examples of Cyberbullying:
- Insulting someone by sending hurtful emails or messages
- Posting negative messages with vulgarities on websites like blogs and Facebook
- Posting untrue information or digitally altered photographs of others online
- Breaking into another person’s email or Facebook account and pretending to be the person by sending vicious or embarrassing messages to others
How Do Victims Feel?
- Victims do not know who the bullies are. This makes them feel helpless and anxious.
- Cyberbullying happens through the Internet and electronic devices like mobile phones. Therefore,victims feel trapped even when they are at home. They may feel insecure as they are unable to escape.
- Victims are able to read what the bully has said on websites and emails over and over again. This doubles the hurt they feel!
What can you do if you are a....
The Targeted (Victim)
Stop, Block, Save and Tell!
- Stop. Calm down and think about what to do next.
- Block the cyber bully. Stop all communications with the bully if possible. Do not read and respond to negative messages or threats.
- Save the message
- Tell an adult whom you trust for example, a parent, teacher, or school counsellor. You can also call Tinkle Friend at 1800-2744-788 to talk about your experience.
- Do not join in the bullying. If you received a nasty message or picture via the Internet or handphone about someone, do not forward it to others as you would be helping to spread the message. The victim will feel more hurt when more people come to know about the message.
- Accompany the victim to Report to a trusted adult
The Aggressor (Bully)
- Try to Understand how your actions make others feel and Stop the behaviour
- Apologise to those whom you used to bully. Do not be too upset if they do not trust you at first. They just need time to get used to you
- Focus on Positive things like your hobbies or take up a sport. These will help you to release your anger when you feel frustrated
Tips to manage Cyberbullying
For social networking sites like Facebook:
- Do not make personal information publicly available. Control who can view your information and post messages on your webpage
- Be selective about accepting friends on social networking sites. Control who are able to add you as friends
- Allow only trusted friends to have access to your contact information.
- Delete or block known senders who have nasty intentions.
You can achieve these by adjusting your privacy settings on Facebook or other similar sites.
For nasty content received via sms or email:
- Delete nasty emails or messages without reading them.
- If it were to continue, you might want to save or print them out to be use as evidence when making a report.
For other websites:
Contact the webmaster to remove any offending information about you. You can email the webmaster at webmaster@[the website name/URL]. Include the following in your email:
- The URL of the page that contains your information
- Copy and paste the information you want removed into your email
- Evidence that you are the person, e.g. your name, description that matches the information on the website
You can read more about cyberbullying at https://bullyfree.sg/cyber-bullying/