Info & Advice
What is bullying?
“Bullying” is a very common term used by students, schools and parents, but what exactly does it mean?
- Actions done or words said deliberately with the intent to hurt another person
- It usually happens more than once
- Cause a lot of sadness to the person
Different Forms of Bullying
Using mean words to cause hurt to others
- Calling a person names
- using vulgar language on a person
Being violent to a person or to his/her belongings
- hitting, shoving, punching
- throwing of things, destroying someone’s belonging/property
Causing hurt to a person by harming his/her social relationship
- spreading of rumours
- asking others not to befriend a person
- isolating someone from a group
Those involved in a bullying situation
There are 3 groups of people involved in a bullying situation
- The Aggressor (Bully): also known as the one who bullies: The person who carries out the aggressive act
- The Targetted (Victim): also known as the one who was bullied: The person who is targeted
- Bystander: is the person who is the witness of the aggressive act
Victims of bullying usually feel rejected, sad, angry, helpless and afraid. The truth is that nobody has the right to bully and nobody needs to go through all the pain associated with bullying.
What can victims do to help themselves?
- Walk away
- Run away
- Avoid the bully
- Stand up for yourself: Firmly say “Stop that!”
- Be FIRM, but NOT MEAN
Admitting that you sometimes bully people can be hard but we all have to face up to what we do and how we make others feel. Bullies might frighten people into being nice to them but that is not friendship. If you are a bully, it is important that you change, even if you like yourself as a bully. Bullies can become better persons and have true friends!
A bystander is someone who is present when bullying happens. Bystanders have the responsibility to help when they see someone being bullied. REMEMBER – by not doing anything a bystander is indirectly saying that it's okay for the bullying to take place.
How can bystanders help?
- Inform an adult (your parent, a teacher or the school counsellor) of the bullying incident
- Offer support to the victim on the spot
- Do not stand, watch and laugh as that gives the bully more power and makes the victim feel alone
Bystanders can also help by making friends with the victim.
- Invite him/ her to join your group and involve that person in your activities
- Invite him / her to sit at your table during lunch time
- Invite him/her to play in your games during recess
- Walk to the bus stop together after school